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Need versus Desire

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When I receive such mail, I used to smile.  One of my shishyas who created this blog for me told that if I don’t receive any email from a known person or anyone writing not related to the subject matter to your article, better delete them and report to spam.  Because such fake emails are created and posted in bulk to various websites to make them to block in future.  Not knowing much about Internet or Computer, following his instruction, till recent past I almost deleted all such mails and retained only few which I received from two known persons (Anugrah and Pawan Aryan).

But another person said to me that he sometime visit my blog and surprised to notice that there is practically no visitors.  Then I told what my shishyas warned me about receiving fake emails.  Then he said, ‘several people will write to you not giving their true email id or real name.  So better you keep those comments which are encouraging.’  So now I keep few comments—but for a short period and then delete them, if they are not related to the subject matter of the article.

The reason for saying is that, in general when we write some thoughts and post them, we naturally have a desire that others should read and give their comments.  But for me it is completely different thing.  Because I write most of my thoughts as ‘brainstorm’ and post them for others who will find some time to read if they are interested in such topic.  But I never expect few general words of appreciation, but serious comments or questions for me to further think on that topic.

Because for me keeping ‘SILENCE’ is my essential sadhana.  Sometimes I won’t receive single phone calls or email in a whole week or any visitor in a whole month.  But I am happy about it as it helps me to continue my sadhana of ‘silence’.  My mother who is staying with me often criticise me that I am a ‘lonely bird’.  ‘You always like to live alone’.  Apart from me, another person that my mother sees every day is the worker who is doing seva (work) here.  But I will see another person every day, my milk man when I get milk from him.  So when my mother becomes tired of such loneliness and boredom she will call someone to talk at least once in a week.

This does not mean that I am eccentric.  I often write about the importance of human relationship and insist on celebrating that relationship in every way in our lives.  But for me such a life ‘alone’ is not something that I LIKE but I NEED it.

I often hear many people saying ‘I like it/this’ on several matters—like food, dress, books, entertainment, fellowship etc.  But for me, if we focus more on our ‘need’ than ‘likes’ then we can handle our life more easily and live more meaningfully.  Desire is not ‘adharma’ (illegitimate or illogical or abnormal) but need is the ‘dharma’ which will sustain us more as a human beings to live meaningfully.

Dayanand Bharati.


Further thought:

When I was going to Andaman back in 1982, I saw the islands where Jeravas and Sentinalis are living away from our civilization in their own world.  Then when I was in Andaman I heard about the attempts to contact and civilize them according to our standard and views. Then on my way back to mainland I wrote the following poem:



நிர்வாணம் அவர்க்குப் புதிதல்ல

நிர்வாணமாய் அவர் வாழ்வதனால்

மெய்ஞானம் அவர்க்குப் புதிரே அல்ல

’அஞ்ஞானம்’ என்னவென்று அறியாததால்


வானமே கூரையாய் ஆனபின்னே

வாழ்வதெற்கென்று ஒரு வீடெதற்கு?

காற்றே உடையாக ஆனபின்னே

மாற்றாடை தேடும் மனமெதற்கு


இயற்கையோடு இணைந்து வாழும்

ஜெரவா  என்ற மெய்ஞானிகள்

ஐயகோ ஆவர் அஞ்ஞானிகள்

நம்முடன் கொண்ட தொடர்பதனால்

True Jnanis (Wise people)

Emancipation (nirvana)@ is not new to them

As they live nakedly

‘jnana’ (wisdom) is not a riddle to them

As they don’t know what is ‘ajana (non-wisdom)


When the sky itself become the roof

What is the need of another house?

When air itself become their dress

Why they should seek extra dress?


Jeravas the True wise people

Who live mingling with nature

Will become ‘unwsie’

Because of the contact they have with us.

@ Nirvana as emancipation.

The ‘Original human beings’ (I don’t like to call them primitive or uncivilized people) live their life having their needs met all these centuries.  By our contact with them, in the name of civilizing them, we will create more desire in their lives—like new concepts of ‘nakedness’ etc.  I don’t say that they don’t have any desire.  But we never knew about it. But now contacting them, we are going to introduce new desires to them, which may go against their need, which so far helped them to live a meaningful.

Of course according to our perception they don’t have a ‘meaningful’ life so far.  But what we mean by ‘meaningful’ life may not be relevant to them as they always live a life of ‘need’ than ‘desire’.



America Anjaneya.

On 7th July 2013 in Vijay TV ‘Neeya Naya’ program the growing importance of learning English and diminishing the need of Tamil among the young generation was discussed in length. The students shared about the pressure from their parents, school and relatives to learn English than Tamil, the parents shared about the need of English for a bright future for their children.  But the panellists showing the fallacy of learning at the cost of mother tongue almost in one voice expressed the need to know the mother tongue (here Tamil) to learn any other language properly.  Gopinath also draw the attention of the parents that by insisting and imposing English on the throat of their children they are not helping them to know both the languages properly.  I like the way Miss Meenakshi Kandamasmi hit the point correctly by exposing the shallowness among the young generation regarding their ‘moha’ (lust) to parade their knowledge in English.

However the main point for me is the one statement made by one boy from the student’s side. He said that his father said that if he has to go to America, he should learn English properly.  For me that boy epitomized the ‘thrishna’ (longing) of the Indian parents and most of the young generation dream of going to America and if possible settle down there.  Here I don’t want to expose the danger of going to that bad country for learning and earning.  Next to English, going to America is another prestigious issue among the most of the middle class people in India, particularly in South India, more specifically among the Tamilians.  This reality can be endorsed by the fact that in their daily announcement of prediction for the future of the people born with a particular star and zodiac in TV program and also in printed (daily, weekly, by-monthly) media we often find statement about the hope of going to abroad, particularly to USA.  But the more amusing thing in it is that there are specific temples to do special puja to go to America.  Here is the information:

Hanuman (Anjaneya) who bestows grace to go to America.

Two k.m. from Pazhavanthangal railway station at Chennai is the holy temple of Lakshmi Narasimpha Navaneetha Krisha.  Here two Hanumans are giving dharshan together.  Among the one who is anointed with butter is known as ‘America Anjaneya’.  Anyone who tries for a job at America, if worship him, soon that prayer will be materialized is the experienced faith of the bhaktas.—K. Mahalingam, Dinakaran, Anmihamalar, Supplement issue 15-6-3013, p. 15@

In a country where deities are even assigned to grand favour to go to America, where is the point of reminding the parents about the importance of learning the mother tongue properly by their children.



When Gopinath asked the students what is the most interesting thing in English for them, one girl said ‘tongue twister’ and she quoted the famous ‘bity bought some butter, that butter was so bitter, to make the bitter butter better, she bought some better butter and mixed the bitter butter with the better butter and made the bitter butter better’.  In response Gopinath said that this we are saying more than 30 years and we may have few other such sayings.  In my school days too we told the same tongue twister.

The fact is that most of the languages have such tong twisting saying in them.  In Sanskrit one word slokas are quite famous (  ).  But the fact is that we have plenty of such tong twisting poems in Tamil from ancient time.  In Tirukkural we have:

துப்பார்க்குத் துப்பாய துப்பாக்கித் துப்பார்க்குத்

துப்பாய தூஉம் மழை.–12

In the following poems by Kavi Kalameham, we have one word tongue twister poems like ‘ka’ and all its derivation like: kaa, ki, kii, ku, kuu, ke kee, kai, ko, kow.  Similarly we have poems with letter ‘tha’, ‘ma’.  There is no point of giving English translation to these poems.  Not knowing such a rich literary legacy, these young generations pick up from the left over from others table to glorify another language when we have a wonderful feast at home.

கவி காளமேகம்

காக்கைக்கா காகூகை கூகைக்கா காகாக்கை

கோக்குக்கூ காக்கைக்குக் கொக்கொக்க-கைக்கைக்குக்

காக்கைக்குக் கைக்கைக்கா கா.- 87, ப. 162

உரை: காக்கைக்கு ஆகா கூகை-காக்கைக்குப் பகை கோட்டான், கூகைக்கு ஆகா காக்கை-கோட்டானுக்கு அடங்காதது காக்கை, (பகலில் காக்கை கூகையை வெல்லும், இரவில் கூகை காகையை வெல்லும்), கோக்கு-அரசன் பொருட்டு, கூ-பூமியை, காக்கைக்கு-காப்பாற்றுவதற்கு, கொக்கு ஒக்க-கொக்கைப் போலச் சமயம் பார்த்துக் காரியத்தை முடிக்க வேண்டும், கைக்கைக்கு-பகையெதிர்த்து, காக்கைக்கு-காப்பாற்றுதற்கு, கைக்கு ஐக்கு-சாமர்த்தியமுடைய தலைவனுக்கும், ஆகா-(காலவாய்ப்பின்றி) முடியாது.-ப.162 உரை கா. சுப்பிரமணிய பிள்ளை, சென்னை, நல்லறப் பதிப்பகம், 2007

தத்தித்தா தூதுதி தாதூதித் தத்துதி

துத்தித் துதைதி துதைத்தத்தா தூதுதி

தித்தித்த தித்தித்த தாதெது தித்தித்த

தெத்தாதோ தித்தித்த தாது.- 88, ப.162

உரை: (வண்டே) தத்தி தாது ஊது-பாய்ந்து மகரந்தத்தை ஊதுகின்றாய், தாது ஊதித் தத்துதி-மகரந்தத்தை ஊதிப் பாய்கின்றாய், துத்தி-து, தி என்று சத்தமிட்டு, துதைதி-பூவினை நெருங்குகின்றாய், துதை அத்தாது ஊதுதி-நெருங்கி அந்தப் பூவை ஊதுகின்றாய், தித்தித்த தித்தித்த-மிகவும் இனிமையான, தாது எது-பூ எது, தித்தித்தது எத்தாதோ-இனிமையானது எப் பூவின் மகரந்தம்? தித்த தாது-அழகிய இதழ் (யாது)?-ப. 162

மானமே நண்ணா மனமென் மனமென்னும்

மானமான் மன்னா நனிநாணும்-மீனமா

மானா மினன்மின்னி முன்முன்னே நண்ணினும்

மானா மணிமேனி மான்.-ப. 163

உரை: மானமே நண்னா மனம் என்-பெருமையை விரும்பாத மனம் எத்தகையது, ஆனா மணி மேனி மான்-நீங்காத இரத்தினங்களை யணிந்த அழகிய உருவுடைய மான் போன்ற பெண், ஆனா மினல் மின்னி-தனது நகைகளில் நீங்காத மின்னொளி வீசிக் கொண்டு, முன் முன்னே நண்ணினும்-மிகவும் முற்பட்டு வந்தடைந்தாலும், என் மனமென்னும் மான மான்-என் மனமாகிய பெரிய ஆனை, மன்னா-நிலை பெறாது, நனி நாணும்-மிகவும் வெட்கப்பட்டு, ஈனமாம்-இழிந்து நிற்கும். ப.-163

தாதிதூ தோதீது தத்தைதூ தோதாது

தூதிதூ தொத்தித்த தூததே-தாதொத்த

துத்திதத் தாதே துதித்துத்தேத் தொத்துதீது

தித்தித்த தோதித் திதி.-96,  ப. 166

உரை: தாதி தூதோ தீது-அடியருடைய தூது பயன் படாதது, தத்தை தூது ஓதாது-கிளி தூது போய்ச் சொல்லாது, தூதி தூது ஓத்தித தூததே-தோழியின் தூதானது நாள் கடத்தி வைக்கப்பட்ட தூதாகும், தேதுதித்து தொத்து தீதி-தெய்வத்தை வழிபட்டுத் தொடர்தல் பயன் தராது வீணாகும், தாதொத்த துத்தி-பூந்தாது போன்ற தேமல், தத்தாதே-என்மேற் பாய்ந்து அதிகப்படாமல், தித்தித்தது ஓதித்திதி-இனிமையான தலைவன் நாமத்தைச் சொல்லி என்னைக் காப்பாற்றுக. ப. 166

@அமெரிக்கா செல்ல அருளும் அனுமன்

சென்னை, பழவந்தாங்கல் ரயில் நிலையத்திலிருந்து 2 கி.மீ. தொலைவில் உள்ளது லட்சுமி நரசிம்ம நவநீத கிருஷ்ணர் திருக்கோயில், இங்கு இரண்டு ஆஞ்சநேயர்கள் ஒரு சேர தரிசனம் தருகின்றனர். இவர்களில் வெண்ணெய்க் காப்பில் தரிசனம் தரும் அனுமனை அமெரிக்க ஆஞ்சநேயர் என்கின்றனர். அமெரிக்காவில் வேலைக்காக முயற்சி செய்பவர்கள் இவரை வணங்கினால் அது கைகூடுகிறது என்பது பக்தர்களின் அனுபவ நம்பிக்கை. கே. மகாலிங்கம். 15-06-2013 தினகரன் ஆன்மிக மலர், இணைப்பு, ப.15


Where to seek and What to seek

The following dialogue I had with Sri Jagadesh Tripati of Ranikhet (Haldwani) on August 18, 2001, evening 4.30 p.m.

After some talk Tripatiji shared about Bhutabarti Sai baba and the social work done by him.  Agreeing with him I said that I too appreciate the way he is doing lot of Social service to the poor and needy.  But, ‘the problem in such work is that as long as he lives, there won’t be any problem among the Trustee and misuse of their power and authority in handling the Trust and social work.  Though Baba claims that he will ever live, one day he too has to pass away.  Then what will happen to the Trust?  Where is the guarantee that there won’t be any fight among the Trustees to hold and control the entire Trust and do the service according to their convenience?  This I say because even at present some influential people related with Baba’s Ashram, can overlook those who wait for a long time to receive heart Operation and other treatment in Baba’s hospital.  One of my Shisya’s relative get admitted in the Hospital easily, even without applying for it through one of his other relative who has some influence in the Ashram.  While several thousands of other patience are waiting for a long period, he not only got free treatment without waiting for it but also managed to stay in the Ashram for another three months for further checkup, which is not possible for other patience.’  Then I told how I wrote a letter to Baba’s Hospital explaining the poor condition of Ashok the servant at Lallan’s house at Rewa (M.P.) who was in need of some urgent heart surgery, which they cannot afford. But no response came from there for his treatment.  Finally he passed away two years before.  ‘Even while Baba is alive, if some people can misuse the power, what would be the condition after his death?  Several such Social Service Trusts finally become the household property of few Trustees and the next generation people even completely stopped all kinds of service and misused the property for their personal use.

Tripatiji:  What you say is true.  Several years before I wrote to Baba Ashram seeking his interview and audience for five minutes.  But I received the letter that next one year it is impossible as lots of people are waiting in the list.

DB:  Even after ten years it is not possible.  Unless you are the PM of India or President or you want to donate several million Dollars, you won’t get any personal audience with Baba.  Considered being a Bhagavan, sometimes he will give his darshan to the gathering of his devotees at the Ashram in public, but to have a private audience with that bhgavan is impossible.

-Then I told about the present ‘Amma’ of Melmaruvatoor, who some twenty years before would sit and talk with you even for a gift of Rupees twenty.  But now with a property of millions rupees and having several Institute doing service to the public, one cannot easily approach him.  I won’t even blame them, as millions of people become their followers; it is not possible for them to give individual audience to everyone.

Tripatiji:  But we have to accept one fact—why only few such people become very famous and not all.

DB:  They never become famous.  Only people make them famous.  Suppose if you visit a Baba or temple and when you return back to your home, people will enquire about your visit or you yourself will share about it with others.  And definitely you will only say what kind of blessings you have received there, even though you returned empty both in mind and spirit.  No Hindu will accept that s/he was disappointed by a baba or temple, because then it will interpret by others as lack of her/his personal faith in the baba or the temple.  ‘Because of your lack of faith (or bad karma in the previous births) you didn’t receive any blessing’, will be others comment.  And to avoid any such humiliation you will exaggerate and even claim that only after visiting that baba or place, you got real shanti in your life.  By this way these baba’s and temples become famous.

Then I told about Premananda who is now in jail.  How he too become famous after few barren woman become pregnant after visiting his ashram, but how he actually raped them and gave child to them, which was hide by those women, but finally truth came when one of the inmate of the same ashram was killed.  People instead of exposing the hypocrisy in those people, will only glorify them and make a saint out of a sinner.  Just a saffron dress and a matted hair with few people to exalt them is enough for one baba to become very famous.  One time at Chidembaram when I went to buy some vegetables to my mother, some venders called me ‘Premananda’ on seeing my saffron dress, condescendingly as he was just arrested and put in jail.  Instead of getting annoyed with a smile I told them, ‘who made Pemananda famous as well as a criminal?  Only people like you have done this.  Instead of performing medical checkup or praying to God for a child, you approached a baba and he has helped the way in which he could fulfill your need.  If you give milk to snake, in return it will only give poison to you and not it’s mani (head pearl).  So don’t blame a baba, but you correct yourself.’

Tripati:  That is true.  Let me tell one real story from my own life.  It happened during 1981.  That time I was working in a factory and we got factory bus freely to go to Haridwar.  So some sixty of us went and there was our Security Officer of the factory with us.  He was addict to drunk, but he warned us that we cannot drink at Haridwar, as we were going to a pilgrimage.  So when finally all the ritual and bath were finished, we counted the money and totally we all had only around thirty or forty rupees.  But it was not enough to buy liquor to share with all outside Haridwar on our return trip.  But that Security Officer said, ‘no problem. Don’t worry I will arrange for it.’  Then he put lot of sandal paste and red tilak on his forehead, wore few rosaries (rudhrakshas) and spread the sheet under a tree and we all joined with him in singing bhajan as we also had the instruments with us.  He asked all of us to put what all the money that we had on that sheet.  Within one hour we managed to collect more than seven hundred rupees.  Because several people came and throw some money on the sheet and touched that Security baba’s feet seeking his blessing and went away.  Then with that money collected from other pilgrims and devotee of Security baba, we had a good party on our way back.

DB:  As long as people never seek true Knowledge to attain salvation—even right kind of knowledge about God and Karma, such kind of blind faith and babas will flourish in our country. If any Swamiji talk about the need of true spirituality no one will listen to him or visit him second time.  At the same time if he promises to do some miracle to cater to their need, people will throng to him.

Then I also talked about how through Puranas and introducing other Tantric rituals the Brahmins were successful in tribalizing the Hindu Community either exploiting their need for mundane affairs at the cost of true spiritual knowledge imparted by few true Sanyasis and Acharyas.  Then I quoted the example of how the cult of Ganesha, linga and other such spirit worship of the forest people were adopted by all the Hindus through the efforts of the Brahminical Priest or some babas.

Tripatiji also said that it depends upon the individual’s perception about such a person and place.  ‘For example when I visit Shridi Sai Baba Ashram, I sit for meditation and no one come and gives any kind of blessing.  But the place itself has such a power to give you real peace.’  Then he gave some example of visiting Khajuraho temple with full of erotic sculpture and visit of Kosani to see Himalayas.  Each one may have different kind of experience according to their individual perception.

However before he left he said that by spending 45 minutes with me in talking all these things he got more than Ten points to think in coming days.

After thought:

When I moved to the present ashram where I am staying with my mother, when young people come here and seek my counsel on several issues, I say, ‘don’t go to any sannyasi seeking answer to your problem in life.  A sannyasi is not the correct person to understand your struggle in life to give proper answer.  If you cannot seek and learn from your own elders at home, you are not going to get it from a sannyasi.  A sannyasi,  to avoide such life alone try to live outside the society (of course not away from it).  So better leave him alone to do his sadhana in his own way.

This surprised them a bit as they never hear such teaching from a sannyasi—not to seek solution to their problems in life.  When some rare visitors ask me about the program here the ashram, I say:  No program here. I don’t prescribe any program to anyone.  Already you all are living a life tightly programmed.  What is the use of coming here again to follow another such program in the name of spirituality. But this ashram is opened for all.  But they have to bring their own program.  If you want to sleep and take rest do it. Or if you want to go for a walk in the nearby forest—do that.  Or if you want to read books, we have a good library.  Or if you want to sit and meditate, we have a calm dhyanamandapa where you can sit and meditate by yourself in which I won’t guide or disturb.  So bring your own program.  But if you still want to know my program, then it is: SILENCE.  And I welcome you to practice is by joining me.

Db.  July 5, 2013