When the question came about doing some sadhana or kundalini yoga to get permanent peace, I said: That is impossible. The world is full of suffering and as Kabir Das said, we all took birth to suffer1. But like lightning which flashes only for few seconds, joy or peace that we get will come and remain only for few seconds or minutes. But if it is genuine, then it will give much mental, moral and spiritual energy or strengthen to cope with the stress and problems in life. It is like charging a mobile phone. We need not charge it the whole day. But once it is charged for sometime the battery will remain for several hours.
But we should guard ourselves and not get cheated or get trapped if someone promises permanent bliss or everlasting joy or peace while we still live on this earth. That is not possible. There is no ready-made and instant solution for any problem in life. No amount of spoon-feeding will help us solve many problems in life, particularly those that we have created for ourselves. For everything there is a price to pay. And even to receive that fraction of joy or peace we need to pay a heavy price by searching for the right kind of sadhana or guru who can guide us step by step.
If anyone promises any instant spiritual solution by attending few days or few weeks of any sadhana, it is nothing but a business and they are cheating others to make a nice living.
Most of the problems and stresses in life come because of strained relationship with others. The best solution for that is forgiveness and reconciliation. Even if we are innocent it is better take that initiative. That will give that joy or peace which will sustain us for a long time to give spiritual, moral and mental strength to cope with stress and problems particularly that come because of interpersonal relationships.
Above all happiness in life depends upon many factors and circumstances. But true joy is something which will remain even though one need not feel it in every situation in life. To become happy or remain happy depends upon others co-operation. But once one finds true joy or bliss she does not require others cooperation, support or circumstances.
To explain this I used one example: each person keeps herself at the centre of her life and views others from that point of view. For example for a woman, it is her husband, her friend, her siblings, her children, her parents, etc. There is nothing wrong in having such notion in life as she owns them as her own. But while owning her duty and responsibility towards them, due to her self-centeredness, she unconsciously expects others to dance according to her tune. This is quite natural for every human being.
But she often forgets one fact that others do the same and they have the right to do so. And quite naturally, keeping themselves at the centre of their life they too would expect others to dance to their tune. And in such a scenario tension is unavoidable.
9-Of all that wear this flesh, are none found happy; all that thou seest are wretched.
Rulers and ruled, the poor, the rich; the lowest of the low, the headman of the village.
In greater or in less degree the whole would is in grief; the house –holder and the hermit alike.
Happy in this world is no father of sons; happy no lonely recluse.
The Jogi is troubled, the Jangam is troubled; to him who seeks out penances is two-fold
The thirst of desire sparings up in all; there is no palace but contains it.
I speak thruth, yet no one heeds; lies I may not utter.
Brahma, Visnu, Mahesa are troubled, who have traced out this path.
The solitary is troubled, the king is troubled; the poor is troubled for his crippled lot.
Kabir says, hear, O brother Sadhus, that man wins happiness who over comes his mind. –Kabir das.
[When I took this poem, I failed to take the bibliography and other reference—db]